The Grass is Greener…
We’ve all heard the saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” This implies that it is far easier to look at what everyone else is having or doing, and think that we would like that better. We have a hard time being truly happy with where we are and what we have, because we are always so busy looking at where everyone else is and what they have. This saying always brings a very vivid memory into my mind, because I remember visiting my grandparents’ farm as a child. All of Grandpa’s cows liked to line up along the fence, reaching their heads through and stretching their necks out to be able to eat the grass that was in the neighbor’s pasture. Grandpa was always having to secure the fence against those pushy cows who thought that the grass two feet over was far superior to what was in their own pasture.
Recently, I heard the slightly altered saying “The grass is greener where you water it.” This really resonated with me, and I think there is a lot more truth to it. Yes, you can always be jealous of what everyone else has, if that is where you are looking and “watering” with your thoughts, but you can just as easily change your focus to your own lawn, and find it soon thriving with a little bit of thankfulness.
Attitude is really the key. It’s easy to fall into the trap of always comparing our life situation to others’ – our home, our job, our husband (or lack thereof), our children, our talents, our limitations. None of these is exempt from being held up to the standard of someone else’s l,fe, and found lacking. Social media often fuels this comparison war. Remember that the side of life most people show on social media is the good side: the fun times, the accomplishments, the high points. Rarely does someone show the bad days: the crying baby, the financial worries, the besetting sins. Life is made up of good days and bad days for everyone, and even if you feel that your life has far more bad days than good days, I bet there is still a lot to be thankful for, if you do a little looking.
Have you ever met someone who was walking through a hard trial, and all they could do was be happy? I’m not talking about being delusional, but rather being genuinely thankful for the small things, and spending more time talking about how good God is, rather than complaining about the rough time we’re going through. This is exactly the advice that we find in Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” There are a lot of things in life that you may not be able to change, but what you think about and your attitude are things you have complete control over.
Your attitude can make such a huge impact on the trajectory of your life. Make the choice to cultivate your own lawn. Find the good, focus on that, and “water” it with thankfulness. You’ll be surprised at how quickly it multiplies, and soon you’ll have the greenest lawn on the block.