Proverbs 31:23- “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.”
You all have heard the expression, “Behind every great man is a great woman.” This statement originated in the mid 1940’s, and expresses the thought that some woman, somewhere, had a hand in the success of a great man. It is most likely that woman was either his mother or his wife.
The husband of the virtuous woman is a successful man; he is one to whom others look for advice and leadership. He is successful in his career, because he can stay focused on his job responsibilities. Why is this? It is because he is married to someone who is “holding down the fort” at home while he is away. His wife is very capable to maintain order and productivity within the home, and does not crumble at the first difficulty that arises. He is not sidetracked numerous times a day with calls from a wife who is frustrated with their children, or indecisive about making decisions throughout the day. His wife is wise to handle difficult situations, and she is one who seeks guidance and wisdom from the Lord in dealing with children. When her husband returns to his “castle,” he is greeted by his smiling wife who has things under control. He is able to relax and unwind from his busy day, which may have been full of stress and difficulties, which the wife does not realize, because he is wise not to bring work and its problems home with him.
I remember being a young mother with very young children at home all day, while my husband was at work. When my husband came home, I would immediately follow him around and declare to him the events of the day, which mostly consisted of complaints of how hard my day had been. I often was a little perturbed that he didn’t give me the sympathy and understanding that I was seeking. I noticed one particular day that the expression on his face was one of dread as I started in on how my day had gone. I realized then that this routine of complaints was possibly causing my husband to pull away and to actually dread coming home. I knew then how selfish I had been, and how I didn’t even care how his day had been. I determined to change, and decided to work on creating a pleasant atmosphere for my husband upon his return home.
I think it is necessary to examine our attitudes as wives and mothers from time to time. Do we view every demand of our little children as trials and hardships? Are we tired and often full of complaints, when we greet our husband at the end of the day? Do we feel the need to call our husband and interrupt his work day with mundane questions and frustrations? Do we pout when he has to work overtime, or when it is necessary for him to go on a business trip? Does our husband return home some days, to disorder and chaos, because we have crumbled under the weight of our responsibilities?
Don’t think for a moment that such attitudes don’t have a negative effect on his success. I get it. At times, being a mother is not a very fun or pleasant task, but it is our job/responsibility to raise these children for the Lord. On occasion, I remember praying and asking the Lord to help me love my job as a mom, and to give me wisdom on how to be the wife He wants me to be. I knew that my husband needed me to be faithful in what the Lord required of me so that he could be more successful and focused in the task that the Lord had for him!
Father’s Day is coming up. It is always nice to do special things for our husband/father on this day, and to give gifts to them. This Father’s Day, along with making his favorite meal and giving him gifts, why don’t we determine to make some necessary changes in our lives. I know that, for a man, having a dedicated wife who is capable to carry on the affairs at home while maintaining a cheerful atmosphere, is something that far surpasses material things. Look for ways to cause your husband to be the successful man who “is known in the gates.”
This Father’s Day may involve a cookout at your house. After all, hamburgers are “man food,” or so I’m told by one of my grandsons. Add a little extra special touch to your burgers with this this delicious burger sauce.
½ cup mayo
¼ cup ketchup
2 tsp sweet pickle relish
2 tsp granulated sugar
2 tsp apple cider vinegar
1 tsp ground black pepper
Whisk all ingredients together. Store in the refrigerator.