Proverbs 31:25 says, “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.”
Many of us have heard the phrase, “It’ll be worth it, in the long run.” This can be used to encourage someone who is in the middle of a project and is seeking advise from someone more experienced on how to do something. Sometimes there are temptations to take shortcuts, but someone who “has been there” will caution the amateur to do the job right, and the rewards will be seen further down the road.
Those of us who are raising young children are definitely in the middle of a project! We have a job: to tame these little wild “things” to one day become servants of the Lord. This task is huge and overwhelming. If we take this responsibility day by day, and seek wisdom from the Lord, it can and will be accomplished! It is a daily task, but if our eyes are blinded by the difficulties that we face each day, then we can’t see the “big picture.” There will be temptations to go “the easy way” when we have lost focus, and the end result will not be what we had hoped for.
As we continue to study about the virtuous woman in Proverbs, we see that she is a strong woman. We have already learned that she is physically strong and “works willingly with her hands.” But in Proverbs 31:25, we see a different type of strength; one of determination. She has a job ahead of her, and she is going to stick to the task and do it the right way, because she knows that there will come the time where she will reap the benefits of having raised her children the right way: God’s way.
I had four very young children when we lived in England. Our pastor was a godly man whom I knew had a handle on child rearing, due to the testimony of his own children. I often talked with him and his wife when I had questions about how to raise my own children. I very willingly applied these principles they gave me. These principles seemed to be working for the most part, but not in regards to one of my children, or so I thought. I remember marching up to the pastor after one service and asking, “Ok, now what! Spankings aren’t working, so now what do I do?” He kindly told me to be consistent and to keep applying the principles found in God’s word. He then promised me that if we faithfully follow God’s method, we WILL see the results one day.
Let me encourage you, ladies, to stay strong and keep focused on the task ahead. I understand the temptation of giving in to take the easy road. But letting a child continually have his or her own way will not go well. Do you tend to turn the TV on for your children, because you are tired and can’t deal with the attitudes and misbehavior? If so, you are basically letting the godless world of Hollywood raise your children.
Homeschool moms, are you diligent to sacrifice your day to making sure your child is doing their work completely and correctly, or do you just instruct them to get their work done on their own, while you do your own thing and “hope for the best?” At mealtime, are your children allowed to waste food because you don’t want to deal with the long process of making them eat what they are given? How about bedtime? Do they stay up late, and then are allowed to get up time and time again for drinks and more kisses and bathroom breaks…just because it’s too much work to insist on obedience? When it comes to raising your children, YOU ARE THE BOSS! Approach each day with the determination that your children will do the things that are required. You will have many long, miserable, tiring days in which you feel like maybe you haven’t gotten anywhere with them. You may even feel like a terrible mother, some days. Don’t be disheartened. Ask the Lord for strength and encouragement, and remember: “…she shall rejoice in time to come.” You will come to end of the task of raising your children, and if you have applied God’s principles, you will even start enjoying your children.
This next paragraph may be interpreted by some as boasting, but believe me, my heart is very humbled and filled with praise and thanksgiving to the Lord for allowing me to have raised my four children. I love my adult children, and they still mean the world to me. I love the spouses that God has given to them. The grandchildren that have been given to me are out of this world. My heart is full of happiness and joy as I see them serving the Lord, and I can truly declare that the hard work of all those years has paid off.
I am including a recipe that is great for busy moms, as well as other women in different areas of their lives. I make these breakfast cookies for myself, now that I am a grandmother, and wish that I had had this recipe back when I was a busy mom with my four children still living at home. It is very versatile, and allows for lots of variations and creativity.
Peanut Butter Breakfast Bars
¾ cup peanut butter, crunchy or creamy (or use almond butter or cashew butter)
¾ cup old fashioned oats
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 Tbsp maple syrup (I omit this)
Any variety of the following:
¼ cup sliced almonds
¼ cup raisins or craisins
1 Tbsp flax seeds
1 Tbsp chia seeds
¼ cup chocolate chips
¼ cup shredded coconut
Mix ingredients well. Spoon out about ¼ cup and shape into a bar or round. Mixture will be a bit sticky so I shape mine between wax paper. Place in a container and store in the refrigerator.